Male guide to female communication

Most of the time, relationships are
wrecked all because of something that
could’ve been avoided so easily –
learning how to communicate with
females. I mean, females are tricky
they hand out a million moods at once and it’s hard to catch up. Hopefully,
after this mini guide, guys will be able
to save their relationships by simply
learning how females communicate.

When she says she is almost ready
and asks you to give her 5 min – come with your fully charged
laptop, connect your joystick and play your FIFA game in the car
because she’s coming out the
house in an hour, you might as well
make yourself comfortable. [NB : Be outside though because she might
just throw a tantrum if she peeks
out the window and you aren’t
there although reality is that she
hasn’t yet decided on what she is
going to wear and still needs to go iron whatever she decides on]

If you are texting her and all of a
sudden she stops using emojis – READ UP… See where she stopped using them? That’s where you
messed up brother. Humble
yourself and correct yourself. If
you don’t see anything wrong
with what you said, kindly ask her
to help you [NB: There is a greater chance that she will help you if you
are smart enough to identify the
text that ruined everything]

Do not, I repeat, do not ask her where she would like to eat
because I guarantee you that she
already knows she wants the
Double Quarter Pounder with
cheese from McDonalds with extra
extra extra fries BUT she will look at you so innocently and say, “I
don’t know”. TELL her where you are taking her (preferably a
restaurant you know she doesn’t
like) so that she can speak up and
give suggestions.

When she tells you stories about
her day and how she woke up to a
cockroach crawling on her pillow,
stories on how her cat died this
morning and stories about
struggling to find the right foundation and lipstick – ‘act’ interested in the stories and I put that in inverted commas
because on the real, you couldn’t
care less about the roach and the
cat and you can’t relate to her
story about the make-up. So act it
out by gasping and using words like, ‘Oh my!’, ‘Really
though?’, ‘Goodness me!’,
‘You lie!’ and sprinkle those
words by using the appropriate
facial expressions.

How To Create a Social Network That Makes Money

Creating a successful social network is no easy task. Making money from it is arguably even harder. Peter Ward knows this better than most. Ward is co-founder and chief executive officer (CEO) of WAYN (Where Are You Now?) a British-Polish startup and social network for travellers.
WAYN is a veteran in the social media world. It has seen the rise of networks such as Facebook and Snapchat as well as the fall of others such as Myspace and Friendster since its inception in 2002. In that time WAYN has been able to survive and carve out its own niche purpose and following of around 23 million members.
It has not been an easy task. The network had to operate on a shoestring budget for much of its development and a large part of its on-going growth. Initially WAYN raised around $15,000 in seed funding, says Ward. Financing has become a bit easier to come by since then. In 2012 it underwent another round of funding, raising $5.5m – with a large contribution coming from Scottish Equity Partners.
Ward and his co-founders made a big breakthrough in 2005 that led to WAYN’s current success. At the time, the network was struggling to attract new members in a cost-effective way. “We were resorting to giving out fliers on the street,” says Ward. “Google GOOGL -0.32% ad-words worked but were costing more per new member than we would be able to earn from them.”

At the time the site had fewer than 50,000 members. The founders of WAYN discovered that many users were joining but few would take the time to go through the process of manually adding their friends – resulting in a missed opportunity for membership growth and, potentially, a shorter period of activity as users that did not make new connections might drop out.

A social network diagram (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

WAYN created a system where users could automatically send invites to friends in their email address book –a now ubiquitous feature that was virtually non-existent at the time. This led to a massive increase in membership – over one million within six months and continued growth from there, says Ward.
This massive increase got the ball rolling and helped to ensure WAYN’s continued survival. The problem then became one of effectively commercialising the network and its user-base. “The networks that succeed are the ones with a clear commercial mindset,” says Ward. “New startups that try to be social and then make money typically don’t survive beyond a point.”
WAYN had an idea for commercial success. As users connected and discovered new places to visit, WAYN could capitalise through the provision of services such as bookings either directly on the site or through tie-in third-parties. But that doesn’t mean it’s been a straight road.
“At one point we had a Tinder-esque service allowing travellers to meet up,” says Ward. “It kept the lights on and allowed us to continue to grow but it wasn’t the nexus of what we wanted.” The network has subsequently redirected back to its core objective – helping people discover where they should go on holiday through social interaction and travel reviews.
The next step is taking this data and codifying it to offer better options and a more tailored, personalise experience to users. This includes collecting and mapping data on what activities are good in any particular destination, Ward adds.
“We’re making the user experience more targeted and relevant –and that means we get a higher return on every user experience,” he says. “If we can convert users to discover more or make a booking, it means we’ve done a good job in bringing them what they want.”
The number of social media sites continue to rise. There's no way of knowing what the next big thing is. But by ensuring a social media site has a commercial objective, a niche area of interest and the determination to succeed on a small budget, a startup has a chance to succeed.

How to become a better writer

How to become a better writer

  Do you enjoy writing? Does it come naturally to you? Do colleagues praise you for your crisp, articulate, Nobel Laureate-worthy email updates?
Congratulations! Because if you work in an office or run your own business, you’re likely to spend about a quarter of your workday doing one thing:
Writing.
Oh, and that’s just the portion of your day that you’ll spend writing emails .
That figure doesn’t account for reports, proposals, best practice guidelines, blog posts, Facebook updates, tweets, texts, chapters of your forthcoming memoirs, that TED Talk script you’ve been tinkering with for the last 18 months, and the occasional hand-written “thank you” note.
We live in an era where the written word is King.
And if you’re going to write 40,000+ words this year —at minimum!—you might as well learn how to do your absolute best.
Here are 10 ways to become a better writer, right away.
(The kind of writer whose words get results.)

1. Get Clear

Before you sit down to write (anything), ask yourself: Why am I writing?
What’s the desired outcome that you want with this particular piece of writing?
Are you writing to brighten someone’s morning? Motivate your team to head back into the ring after a crushing defeat? Encourage folks to say “yes” to your new meeting time?
The best writing tends to have one clear, ringing intention. Choose it—and commit.

2. Get to the Point

In the business world, brevity is gold. (Related: Are Your Emails Too Long? Probably )
If you’re struggling to get to the point, take a moment to think about the person (or people) that you’re writing to, and create a roadmap for yourself by filling in the following statements:
The reason I am writing is:
What I want you to know is:
What I want you to do is:
Get those three points down pat. Then refer to them as you write to keep yourself on track.

3. Strip it Down

Albert Einstein once said, “If you can't explain it to a six-year-old, you don’t understand it yourself.”
Imagine that you’re writing for an audience of little kids—impatient, easily distracted, with zero tolerance for jargon.
You can practice—out in the real world—by having actual conversations with kids. Try explaining to a toddler what you do for a living, for starters. You’ll see, very quickly, if your elevator pitch is clear and intriguing—or not. (If not? Here are my tips for how to tell people what you do —and be remembered.)

4. Write From Your Happy Place

Ever notice how when you’re stressed out and trying to “force” yourself to write something amazing, it almost never works?
Research shows that getting yourself into a happy, relaxed state—think: taking a shower —is the key to creativity-on-command. When your body is experiencing a rush of dopamine, that’s when those a-ha! moments (“Ooh! I’ve got the perfect title for my presentation!”) tend to happen.
Can’t take a shower at work? No worries. There are plenty of other ways to get into your happy place before you sit down to write. Play energizing music, light a scented candle, bounce on an exercise ball—whatever it takes to help you unclench and relax!

5. Give Yourself a Time Limit

For most people, the longer you fuss over a piece of writing, the worse it gets.
When you have a clear reason for writing and feel happy and relaxed (see tip #4), your first draft is usually best. There’s no need to endlessly chew it over.
Clearing out your inbox, for example? Give yourself a time limit—say, two minutes per email—to prevent yourself from slipping into analysis-paralysis.
(You can set up a “ smart playlist ” in iTunes comprised entirely of two-minute songs, to keep yourself rockin’ along. When the song changes—hit “send” and move on!)

6. Ask, “What Would My Hero Write?”

If you’re struggling with a sensitive piece of writing where hitting the right emotional tone is essential, try channeling one of your personal heroes.
“What would Mister Rogers write in this situation?” “What would the Dalai Lama say?” “How would Richard Branson handle this email chain?”

7. Close Strong

Lost in a sea of never-ending email threads? Questions building upon questions, never leading to decisive action?
Try taking a decisive stance, rather than wrapping up your writing with an open-ended prompt.
Think: “In my opinion, the following approach is the best choice. If you agree, write back to say ‘yes,’ and I’ll get started.”
Not: “So, what do you guys think? I’m open to everyone’s input!”

8. Use the 7 Magic Words

“All I need from you right now.”
Kick these words up to the top of your correspondence, as in:
“I’m so excited that you’re going to deliver a keynote at our annual conference.
All I need from you right now is the title of your talk, a headshot, and your bio.”
These seven magic words give your reader a clear assignment, and put them at ease. (“Ahhh—that’s all? No problem. Done.”)
You can always add more information down below, if necessary (“Here are a few other things to know—for later.”)

9. Say it Out Loud

Whenever possible, read your writing out loud.
Does it sound like it was written by a human being or a cyborg? Are you stumbling over excessively long sentences? Catch any typos or duplicate words? If so, tweak and read it out loud again.
If reading aloud isn’t possible—because you don’t want to disturb your colleagues—try lightly tapping a finger on your desk or thigh as you silently read each word in your head. (It’s bizarre, but it works almost as well as reading out loud.)

10. Be a Daymaker

David Wagner, CEO of Juut Salonspa, often speaks about being a “Daymaker” —not just going through the motions at work, but actively choosing to be a source of positivity and encouragement. Choosing to make someone’s day.
With everything you write—every email, every text, every tweet—you have an opportunity to make someone’s day. (Or not.)
Often, all it takes is a few words of kindness, a thoughtful compliment, or the kind of insightful reminder that leaves people thinking, “Yeah. I needed that.”
Set “Daymaker” as your barometer of success—for your writing, and for everything you do.
Whether your writing is “perfect” or not, your intent will shine through.

Behavioral disorders in children

Behavioral disorders in children

All young children can be naughty,
defiant and impulsive from time to
time, which is perfectly normal.
However, some children have
extremely difficult and challenging
behaviours that are outside the norm for their age. The most common disruptive
behaviour disorders include
oppositional defiant disorder (ODD),
conduct disorder (CD) and attention
deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD).
These three behavioural disorders share some common symptoms, so
diagnosis can be difficult and time
consuming. A child or adolescent may
have two disorders at the same time.
Other exacerbating factors can include
emotional problems, mood disorders, family difficulties and substance abuse. Oppositional defiant disorder Around one in ten children under the
age of 12 years are thought to have
oppositional defiant disorder (ODD),
with boys outnumbering girls by two
to one. Some of the typical behaviours
of a child with ODD include: Easily angered, annoyed or irritated Frequent temper tantrums Argues frequently with adults,
particularly the most familiar adults
in their lives, such as parents Refuses to obey rules Seems to deliberately try to annoy
or aggravate others Low self-esteem Low frustration threshold Seeks to blame others for any
misfortunes or misdeeds.

Conduct disorder Children with conduct disorder (CD) are
often judged as ‘bad kids’ because
of their delinquent behaviour and
refusal to accept rules. Around five
per cent of 10 year olds are thought to
have CD, with boys outnumbering girls by four to one. Around one-third of
children with CD also have attention
deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). Some of the typical behaviours of a
child with CD may include: Frequent refusal to obey parents or
other authority figures Repeated truancy Tendency to use drugs, including
cigarettes and alcohol, at a very
early age Lack of empathy for others Being aggressive to animals and
other people or showing sadistic
behaviours including bullying and
physical or sexual abuse Keenness to start physical fights Using weapons in physical fights Frequent lying Criminal behaviour such as stealing,
deliberately lighting fires, breaking
into houses and vandalism A tendency to run away from home Suicidal tendencies – although these
are more rare.

Attention deficit hyperactivity
disorder Around two to five per cent of children
are thought to have attention deficit
hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), with
boys outnumbering girls by three to
one. The characteristics of ADHD can
include: Inattention – difficulty concentrating, forgetting
instructions, moving from one task
to another without completing
anything. Impulsivity – talking over the top of others, having a ‘short fuse’,
being accident-prone. Overactivity – constant restlessness and fidgeting.

Risk factors in children’s
behavioural disorders The causes of ODD, CD and ADHD are
unknown but some of the risk factors
include: Gender – boys are much more likely than girls to suffer from
behavioural disorders. It is unclear
if the cause is genetic or linked to
socialisation experiences. Gestation and birth – difficult pregnancies, premature birth and
low birth weight may contribute in
some cases to the child’s problem
behaviour later in life. Temperament – children who are difficult to manage, temperamental
or aggressive from an early age
are more likely to develop
behavioural disorders later in life. Family life – behavioural disorders are more likely in
dysfunctional families. For example,
a child is at increased risk in
families where domestic violence,
poverty, poor parenting skills or
substance abuse are a problem. Learning difficulties –problems with reading and writing are often
associated with behaviour
problems. Intellectual disabilities – children with intellectual disabilities are
twice as likely to have behavioural
disorders. Brain development – studies have shown that areas of the brain that
control attention appear to be less
active in children with ADHD.

Diagnosis of children’s
behavioural disorders Disruptive behavioural disorders are
complicated and may include many
different factors working in
combination. For example, a child who
exhibits the delinquent behaviours of
CD may also have ADHD, anxiety, depression, and a difficult home life. Diagnosis methods may include: Diagnosis by a specialist service,
which may include a paediatrician,
psychologist or child psychiatrist In-depth interviews with the
parents, child and teachers Behaviour check lists or
standardised questionnaires. A diagnosis is made if the child’s
behaviour meets the criteria for
disruptive behaviour disorders in the
Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of
Mental Disorders from the American
Psychiatric Association. It is important to rule out acute
stressors that might be disrupting the
child’s behaviour. For example, a
sick parent or victimising by other
children might be responsible for
sudden changes in a child’s typical behaviour and these factors have to be
considered initially.

Treatment of behavioural
disorders in children Untreated children with behavioural
disorders may grow up to be
dysfunctional adults. Generally, the
earlier the intervention, the better the
outcome is likely to be. A large study in the United States,
conducted for the National Institute of
Mental Health and the Office of School
Education Programs, showed that
carefully designed medication
management and behavioural treatment for ADHD improved all
measures of behaviour in school and
at home. Treatment is usually multifaceted and
depends on the particular disorder and
factors contributing to it, but may
include: Parental education – for example, teaching parents how to
communicate with and manage their
children. Family therapy – the entire family is helped to improve
communication and problem-solving
skills. Cognitive behavioural therapy – to help the child to control their
thoughts and behaviour. Social training – the child is taught important social skills, such as how
to have a conversation or play
cooperatively with others. Anger management – the child is taught how to recognise the signs of
their growing frustration and given
a range of coping skills designed to
defuse their anger and aggressive
behaviour. Relaxation techniques
and stress management skills are also taught.

Support for associated problems – for example, a child with a
learning difficulty will benefit from
professional support.

Encouragement – many children with behavioural disorders
experience repeated failures at
school and in their interactions with
others. Encouraging the child to
excel in their particular talents
(such as sport) can help to build self- esteem.

Things to remember Some children have extremely
difficult and challenging behaviours
that are outside the norm for their
age. These problems can result from
temporary stressors in the child’s
life, or they might represent more
enduring disorders. The most
common disruptive behaviour
disorders include oppositional defiant disorder (ODD), conduct
disorder (CD) and attention deficit
hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). Boys are more likely than girls to
suffer from behavioural disorders. Treatment options include parent
management training, cognitive
behaviour therapy, medication and
treatment for associated problems.

10 HEALTH AND FITNESS TIPS FOR BUSY PEOPLE

1. The list A great way to focus your time on the
things you value, such as staying healthy
and fit, is to create a list of everything
you’d like to do in your free time, such
as watching your favourite TV series or
running. Once you’ve got your list, number each
activity in terms of how much of a priority
it is for you, starting at number one and
working your way down. At the end of
this task you’ll have a list of the
activities you value. Try to always fit in at least one of your top three priorities per
day, even if it’s just for 15 minutes.

                                

2. Less can be more You do not always have to exercise for an
hour to reap the benefits and as soon as
you understand this you will be able to
exercise more regularly, even when you
have a jam-packed day. For example, you
can do four minutes of kettle bell exercises, four minutes of abs work and
two minutes of squats and lunges.

3. Learn some super quick recipes Slaving over a hot oven is no fun,
especially when you’ve had an awful
day and arrive home late into the night. To
make sure that on these days you don’t
reach for unhealthy convenience foods
learn some super quick recipes you can knock up in an instant. A turkey steak with
a feta and beetroot salad is a healthy meal
that can be knocked up in less than 10
minutes, as can vegetable frittatas.

4. Use the loudspeaker or your
mobile If you tend to be on the phone a lot, think
about ways you can get active during
these long calls. Getting out of the office
and going for a walk somewhere quiet can
be a great way to get some exercise
without losing any concentration whilst on the phone, or even pacing in your office
whilst on the phone can help keep you
active and healthy.

5. Optimum foods When you’re busy your diet can suffer
and vending machines, pizzas and
takeaways can become too much of a
regular occurrence. To make sure you’re
getting the right nutrition make sure you
always have a good stock of foods that deliver the maximum health benefits to
hand. For example, tomatoes (good for
your heart), spinach (good for your brain),
blueberries (good for your cholesterol),
salmon (good for weight loss) and pumpkin
seeds (good for your memory) are hugely nutritious and will keep you full.

6. Pick a healthy hotel A study published in the Journal of
Occupational and Environmental Medicine
found that people who travel away for
work more than 20 times per month were
1.92 times more likely to be obese and
2.61 times more likely to feel like they had poor to fair health than those workers
who only travelled for six times per
month. If you travel away from home for
work try to book hotels with gyms,
healthy menu options and when you are
there avoid comfort eating and instead reward yourself in other ways.

7. Workout with your kids If you watch your little ones running about
you quickly realise that they’re better
than any personal trainer. Playing with
your kids, whether it’s on the
trampoline, dancing around your living
room or playing a big game of tag together is a great way to workout without
realising it. Plus this way you don’t feel
guilty about not spending enough time with
them.

 

8.  Relax When you are chasing a day full of
meetings with a busy evening your stress
levels are probably sky-high and stress
has a terrible impact on your health and
wellbeing. Therefore one of the best things
you can do to stay healthy and fit is to learn how to relax. If you don’t have
time to meditate or take a hot bath, studies
have found that even the anticipation of
laughter can help us to relax and reduce
stress levels in the body. So, take a look at
some funny Youtube videos to help you unwind.

9. Supersets On those occasions when you manage to
carve a space in your busy schedule to
exercise, make sure you are getting the
most out of your workout by doing
supersets.  Super-setting can cut your
exercise time by 50 per cent because instead of having rest periods between
sets, you do an alternative exercise that
rests the muscles you’ve just trained and
exercises the opposite one, before you
begin your next set. For example, once
you’ve worked on your stomach, work out your lower back.

10.  Live an active lifestyle If you struggle to find the time to get to the
gym or to get to your dance class then
incorporating exercise into your lifestyle
might help you to stay healthy and fit even
when your schedule is maxed. For
example, carry your shopping home rather than getting a cab, do some
gardening with your partner on your date
night, or go swimming with a friend
instead of meeting for coffee.

HOW TO TRAVEL ON A BUDGET (BEST HOTEL DEALS. CAR RENTAL. TRIP ADVICE.)

HOW TO TRAVEL ON A BUDGET (BEST HOTEL DEALS. CAR RENTAL. TRIP ADVICE.)

1. Airline Tickets – Plan in advance and
visit discount
websites to see if
there are better
deals. While these
sites might charge you a service fee
($5 or so), they can
easily combine flight
segments from
different airlines
easily to give you a great deal.

 2. Connecting Flights – You might think
connecting sucks but
it sure saves you a
good chunk of
money doing it.
Consider the pros and cons and don’t
write it off right
away.

 3. Travel Light – Airlines are starting
to charge for
everything now and
if you have 2 bags
or more, expect to
be charged for it. Remember to not
use over sized bags
whenever possible
and try to keep it all
within one bag per
person.

4. Substitute – Consider packing
really old clothes (if
you plan to buy new
ones on the trip).
This way, you can
keep one luggage and still have room
for purchases.

 5. Always Look into
Round Trip Tickets – Sometimes, one
way tickets are so
expensive that the
round trip ticket is
cheaper. Just don’t
use the return trip. (I know it’s weird
but I’ve seen it
myself)

6. Try to Get Back to
the Same Airport – Flying in and out
of the same airport
is almost always
cheaper. It’s not
only the flight
tickets but the car rentals as well.

7. Traveling to Two
Countries – If you are planning to stay
in two countries and
an airline makes
you change planes
on those countries
anyway, you might be in luck. Check
pricing on the flights
to see if you can
stay a few days at
the country of the
flight change instead of changing planes
right away since
airlines often let you
do that for the same
price.

Using technology in small business (Google Docs, CRM, credit card processing

Using technology in small business (Google Docs, CRM, credit card processing)

Small businesses cover a huge part of the economy. Therefore there is a need to for small businesses to grow and use fast and efficient methods in their activities. I am going to describe how Google docs, CRM and credit card processing helps small business.

                  

Google Docs: Google sheets, slides and Docs are normally working as a spreadsheet, presentation and word processor program respectively. All of these can be easily used through Google within its free Google drive service.

Documents are automatically saved to Google’s servers plus it also provides an option to see the past edits. Moreover, in the Google Chrome browser, the contents of the user’s Google Drive can be downloaded to the computer so that documents may be offline as well edited.

Google Docs are the precise worthy approach in order for editing documents, sharing to anyone for either editing or just for view option even for multiple user. It can be used to do various official works. You can create documents, spreadsheets and any kind of presentation through this interface which is quite helpful for the user. Also they are quite confidential when it comes to security. CRM: In CRM (customer relationship management), CRM software is software that is designed to help businesses manage many of the following business processes: Customer data. Customer interaction. Access business information. Automate sales.   CRM is a customer-oriented feature which provides customer input, direct online communication and also helpful for customer service center companies. This helps users to solve the problems of the customer.

CRM is beneficial for selling companies as
well. It helps to track the client’s account anytime from its database for any further sales and marketing. It also provides data warehouse technology which provides the transaction information. Credit card processing: In the 16th century, paper currency became a way to trade commodity resources. However, today a modern payment processor is being used by the merchants through a concept known as software-as-a-service (SaaS). To handle various transactions from different channels such as debit card, credit card and e- cheque. SaaS payment processor is a very great tool which can be used by a merchant. SaaS process also handles the recurring payment from the merchant. This result in cost reductions, maintains secure and safe payment information and improved transaction processing quality. It also offers a confirmation number which is a payment proof.

Electronic payments are highly vulnerable to fraud and abuse. Misuse of the banking information can led to a great loss. Nonetheless, one way to lower this fraud and misuse is to use good safe payment processor software. Thus these all are the benefits and a brief detail about the newer technology such as Google docs, CRM and about the process of credit card processing.

Ambition and GoalsPersonal Development (Passions & Ambition Pursuing)

Ambition and  Goals Personal  Development (Passions & Ambition Pursuing)

Ambition and Goals

The difference between who you are now
and who you want to be tomorrow, is
what you do today. You have the
strength, the passion and the patience to
achieve your ambitions, your goals and
your dreams. All you need to do is TRY. I am ambitious, I set goals, not because
I’m ungrateful of […]

Realizing dreams

Only thing worse than not knowing your
purpose, is to have found it but be too
afraid to let the world know. FIND YOUR
DREAM!! The key to realize your dream is
to focus not on success but significance
and then even the small steps and little victories along your path will take on
greater […]

Power of Positive Thinking

Positive thinking doesn’t mean that you
keep your head in the sand and ignore
life’s less pleasant situations. Positive
thinking just means that you approach the
unpleasantness in a more positive and
productive way. You think the best is going to happen, not the worst.Positive
thinking often starts with self-talk. Self-
talk is the endless stream […]

Self motivation

Ability to do what needs to be done,
without influence from other people or
situations. People with self motivation can
find a reason and strength to complete a
task, even when challenging, without
giving up or needing another to encourage them. I think every teenager
is a hero. When we are young we feel so
much pain. Going […] Self motivation

How to be a real and true friend

How to be a real and true friend

Friends. What is definition of
friends to you? For every person
it is different. Being a good friend
isn't always easy, but taking the
time to nurture a lasting
friendship is worth every ounce of effort. As the years pass, some
people will stay by your side, but
many won't, and you'll realize
that each friendship you keep is
priceless. Of course, to have a
good friend, you must be one. 

To be a good friend and deepen a
friendship to make it last. Follow
the described journey and will be
possible to make friends, not
temporary but forever.

Keep your promises. Don't ever make a promise that you
can't keep -- or at least don't
make a habit of it. If you say
you'll hang out with a friend
and a legitimate conflict arises,
explain the situation and trust that the friendship is strong
enough for the no's as well as
the yes's. If you just cannot go,
give your friend a gift and tell
him or her sorry. Nobody's
perfect, and it's okay if you skip out on a promise once in a
blue moon, but don't make it a
regular thing. If this is
recurring over time then you
will probably be seen as not
trustworthy as you can not be trusted to be committed to
someone such as your friend. When you make a serious
promise, look at your
friend in the eyes and
speak slowly to show that
you really mean it instead
of just saying it because you think that you should.
Do not break any such
promise, as that will hurt
your friend.It might even
break your friendship! Be dependable. Being dependable is one of the most
important aspects of being a
good friend. Your friend will
need you for support,
especially in hard times.
Nobody likes a fake, and nobody wants one for a close
friend. It's hard to rely on a
person who doesn't behave in
a consistent and trustworthy
way. We all know well-
intentioned but flaky people who say, "Okay, I will..." but
never follow through. If that's
you, know that you're eroding
your friends' trust; eventually
they'll stop believing what you
say. If you're not sure you can
do something, don't agree
to do it and flake out later.
Instead, be honest about
the fact that you're not
sure if you can make it. Your friends should always
feel like they can count on
you, even when the going
gets tough. If you're only
there for the fun times,
you'll be no more than a fair-weather friend. Apologize when you've made a mistake. If you want your friends to trust you, then
you can't act like you're
flawless. If you know you've
made a mistake, own up to it
instead of being in denial.
Though your friends won't be happy that you made a
mistake, they'll be very
pleased that you're mature
and grounded enough to
admit it instead of just
pretending that nothing is wrong, or worse -- blaming it
on someone else. When you say sorry, you
should mean it. Let your
friends hear the sincerity in
your voice instead of
thinking that you don't
really care how they feel. Be honest. If you want to be a good friend and to have
people trust you, then you
have to be honest about your
feelings, about your friends'
actions, and about how you
feel about your friendship. If you're honest about how you
feel, that will open up direct
lines of communication with
your friends and will make
them more likely to open up to
you. If your friend hurt you, don't be afraid to talk about it;
if something is upsetting you,
don't feel too shy to open up
to your friend about it. Being honest is different
from being so blunt that
you're hurting your
friends. If you think your
friend has a drinking
problem, for example, then you owe it to your friend
to start a conversation
about it. But if you think
your friend looks kind of
weird in her new dress, you
may want to keep your mouth shut. Be real. Connect with people whom you value on
a deep level if you want to
have sustainable, long-
term friendships. Invest in
people you can be yourself
around. If your behavior lacks sincerity, your
friendship won't last. Don't use people. If one of your friends suspects that
you're just using them, then
they'll drop you like a hot
potato. Good friendships don't
arise from hoping someone
else's popularity or networks will rub off on you. If you're
trying to be friends with a
person just to be accepted into
a certain clique, that's not
friendship – it's opportunism –
and eventually the shallow nature of your involvement
will reveal itself. And if you have a
reputation of using people,
then new people won't be
too excited to start a
friendship with you. A friendship is about give
and take. Sure, it may be
really convenient that one
of your friends gives you a
ride to school every day,
but make sure that you do something for that friend in
return. Be loyal. If your friend tells you something in confidence,
keep it and don't talk about it
with anyone else, just as you'd
expect your friend to do for
you. Don't discuss your friend
behind his or her back, and don't spread rumors about the
confidences they've imparted
to you. Never say anything
about your friend that you
would not be prepared to
repeat to their face. Be loyal to your true friends and be
prepared to defend them if
your new friends, or people
you barely know, start
gossiping about them. Part of being loyal is
understanding the
importance of a long-
lasting and stable
friendship. Don't throw all
that away just to spend all your time hanging out with
your new boyfriend or
girlfriend or a cool new
person you just met. If you have a reputation for
being a blabbermouth or a
gossip, then your friends
will quickly find out and
they'll be hesitant to reveal
anything personal to you in the future -- or even to
spend much time with you
at all. Don't let others say bad
things about your friend,
either. Until you've had a
chance to hear your
friend's side of the story,
treat comments that are not supportive as hearsay
and rumors. If someone
says something that shocks
you and doesn't seem like a
thing your friend would do
or say, then respond with something like, "I know
him/her, and that just
doesn't sound right. Let me
talk to him/her; find out
his/her perspective on this.
Until then, I would appreciate it if you didn't
spread that around." Be respectful. Good friends show respect for each other by
being openly and mutually
supportive. If your friend has
certain values and beliefs that
don't align with your own,
respect his or her choices and be open to hearing more
about them. If you want your
friend to trust you, then your
friend should feel comfortable
voicing opinions that you may
not agree with, or discussing a new perspective with you. If
your friend thinks that you'll
shoot down any interesting or
original idea that he or she
may have, then your
friendship won't be valued. Sometimes your friend will
say things that you find
boring, uncomfortable or
annoying, but if you have
respect for your friend,
you'll give your friend the space to speak, and to do
so without judgment. During times when you
don't see eye to eye with
your friend, disagree
respectfully and be willing
to see things differently. Advertisement Part Two of Three: Being Supportive Be selfless. Though you can't be selfless all the time,
being selfless is an important part of being a good friend.
Accommodate your friend's
wishes whenever you can,
provided this is done in a
balanced way. Reciprocate his
or her acts of kindness with caring deeds of your own, and
your friendship will be
strengthened. If you get a
reputation for being selfish
and only being around your
friends when you need some help, then people will know
you're not looking out for
them. Do a favor for your friend
just out of the goodness of
your heart, not because
you want something in
return. There's a difference
between being selfless at
the right time and letting
people walk all over you. If
you feel like you're always
helping your friends and get nothing back, then you
may have a problem. Don't abuse generosity or
wear out your welcome.
When your friend does
something nice for you,
reciprocate quickly. Pay
back money you borrow promptly. Go home when it
seems like the time is right. Be a good listener. Don't monopolize conversations and
take the time to truly
understand and support your
friend when he is talking to
you. It sounds simple, but
make sure you're listening as much as you're talking about
yourself. If you're
monopolizing every
conversation with your
feelings, your friend isn't
getting anything out of the relationship. Listening opens
space between the two of you
and reassures your friend that
you care. If you're just waiting for
your friend to finish talking
so you can say what you
want to say, it'll be obvious
right away. Try to strike a balance of
letting your friend talk
about half of the time.
Though some people are
more shy than others, if
your friend feels like he can't get a word in when
he's around you, it'll be
hard to have a thriving
friendship. Help your friends deal with their struggles. To be truly supportive, you'll have to
be able to watch out for your
friends when they're having a
tough time. If you sense that
your friend is getting into
some sort of trouble over which they have little control,
such as taking drugs, being
promiscuous, or getting too
drunk at a party, help him or
her get away from the
situation by not being afraid to speak up about it. Don't assume that your
friend can handle it alone;
this may be the very time
that your voice of common
sense is needed to wake
them from their fugue. If you see a problem, speak
up, no matter how
awkward you may feel. Let your friend know that
you can give him a
shoulder to cry on during
this tough time. If your
friend feels less alone, it'll
be easier for them to deal with their troubles. If all your friend wants to
do about the problem is to
talk, that's fine at first, but
you should help your
friend find practical
solutions to his problems. For example, if your friend
admitted to having an
eating disorder and simply
promises to start eating
more, you need to talk
about taking more serious measures to address the
problem, like talking to a
health professional. Be there in a time of crisis. If your friend has to go to the hospital, visit. If his dog
runs away, help to find it. If
she needs someone to pick
him/her up, be there. Take
notes for your friend in school
when he or she is absent. Send cards and care packages when
you're living far apart. If there
is a death in his/her family,
attend the funeral. Let your
friend see that he can count on
you any time. Just make sure that your
friend isn't always in the
middle of some kind of
crisis, however contrived it
may be. You should be
there to help out during the hard times, but that
can't be the basis of your
whole relationship. Part of being there for your
friend in a crisis is
providing emotional
support, too. Care about
your friend enough to help
him or her open up and let the tears roll. Hand him or
her a tissue and listen
openly. You don't have to
say anything if nothing
seems right; just stay calm
and reassuring. If your friend is going
through a crisis, don't say,
"Everything is going to be
all right" if it's not going to
be. It's hard not to say that
sometimes, but false reassurance can often be
worse than none. Instead,
let your friend know you
are there for him or her.
Stay honest, but upbeat
and positive. If your friend begins
talking about committing suicide, tell someone about it. This rule overrides the
"respect privacy" step,
because even if your friend
begs you not to tell
anyone, you should do it
anyway. Suggest a help line or professional to your
friend. Talk to your and
your friend's parents or
spouse (unless they are the
ones causing the problems)
before involving anyone else. Give thoughtful advice. To be a good friend, you
should be able to weigh your
friend's situation from his or
her perspective and to provide
your opinion without insisting
that your friend should do whatever you say. Don't judge
your friend; simply advise him
or her when he or she reaches
out. Avoid giving unsought for
advice. Allow venting
where needed and be
willing to offer advice if it's
clear that it's sought.
Always ask before assuming you can give
advice. In some cases, a friend
could use a little tough love
to keep him or her out of a
dangerous situation. Use
discretion here; you don't
want to lecture or overwhelm your friend.
Tell him or her how you
perceive the situation using
factual information, and
suggest what you might do
in the same circumstances. Give your friend some space when he/she needs it. Part of being supportive
means supporting the fact that
your friend won't always want
to spend time with you. Learn
to step back and give your
friend space. Understand if your friend wants to be alone
or to hang out with other
people. There's no need to
become clingy or needy. If
you're clingy and check in with
your friend every two seconds if he or she isn't around, you'll
start to look like a possessive
significant other, and that will
not be appreciated. Don't get jealous if your
friend has lots of other
friends. Every relationship
is special and different, and
that doesn't mean that
your friend doesn't appreciate you. Allowing one another the
time to hang with other
friends gives you much-
needed breathing room,
and allows you to come
together fresh and appreciating each other
even more. Advertisement Part Three of Three: Making Your Friendship Last Learn to forgive. If you want your friendship to last,
then you should be able to
forgive your friend and to
move forward. If you hold a
grudge and let your bitterness
and resentment build up, then you won't be able to move
forward. Recognize that
nobody's perfect and that if
your friend is sincerely sorry
and if he or she didn't do
something too horrible, that you should move past it. If your friend really did do
something so unforgivable
that you just can't get past
it, then it's better to move
on than to try to save the
friendship when it's doomed. But this should
happen very rarely. If you're angry at your
friend but haven't told him
or her why, you'll never be
able to forgive him if you
don't talk about it. Accept your friend for who he or she is. To make your friendship thrive, you
shouldn't try to change your
friend or make your friend see
the world from your
perspective. If you're
conservative and your friend is liberal, then accept that
instead of trying to argue
about it all the time. You
should appreciate the fresh
perspective your friend can
bring to your experiences instead of wanting your friend
to see everything from your
perspective. The more you are with one
another, the less you
idealize each other and the
more you accept one
another for who you really
are. This is what being a truly good friend is really
about -- caring deeply for
each other, even if you
know you're both full of
flaws. Go beyond the call of duty. A friend will wait while you do your homework. A
great friend stays up all night
helping. Remember that if you
are a good friend, people want
to be a good friend to you.
Recognize the moments when you need to go above and
beyond to help your friend
and know that this will make
your friendship grow, and that
your friend will do the same
for you in return. If your friend really needs
you and keeps saying, "No,
you don't have to do
that..." learn to read
between the lines and
know that your friend really does need you. Stay in touch no matter what. As the years pass, people tend to grow apart.
Maybe you and a friend will
move to different places and
only see each other every once
in a while. Sometimes years
may elapse without much contact. If you never stop
caring about your friend,
speak up. He or she will be
happy to hear from you. You
were friends for a reason in
the past, and you may find the same bond still ties you
together. Don't let your location
determine the strength of
your bond. If your
friendship is meaningful,
then it should keep
growing even if you're an ocean apart. Make a goal of having
monthly phone or Skype
dates with your friend even
if you're in a completely
different time zone. If
keeping up with your friend becomes a routine,
your relationship will
continue to thrive. Let your friendship evolve. If you want to be a good friend, then you have to
understand that your
friendship won't be the same
in high school, college, or in
the adult world. Sure, when
you were fourteen, you might have spent all of your time
with your best friend, but by
the time you went off to
separate colleges or started
your serious relationships, you
naturally spent less time talking. This doesn't mean that
your friendship isn't as strong;
it just means that your lives
are evolving, and your
friendship is taking on a
different shape over the years. Don't try to make your
friendship be exactly the
same as it was ten years
ago. Think of it as elastic,
not solid. If your friend is married
with two kids or even just
in a serious relationship
and you're not, be
respectful of the fact that,
while your friend really cares for you, he/she won't
be on call 24/7 like he/she
used to be. Appreciate the changes
your friendship has made
over the years, and learn
to grow along with your
relationship.

Working in Uncommon Fields of Expertise While Location Independence

Working in Uncommon Fields of Expertise While Location Independence

Hello-hello guys! how’s your day? Is today
heavy day? Same with me. Today is so
heavy day for me. I have some works and I
am too busy with my works. By the way,
what is your work field? I work as a teacher
in elementary school. This is my passionate. My expertise is teaching and English
language. How about you?

A good part working in an uncommon field of
expertise is the location independence you
get. Look at me! I am working in uncommon
fields of my expertise. I can get
independence location where I want. To
make me and my students do not feel bored, I can teach them in another place ( out of
school ) like as hills. I can travel to any near
places with my students. I can go to the zoo
to teach students about the animals, I can go
to the museum, and sure I can go to the
botanical garden for teaching students about plants. This is good ways to teach students.

If you are a photographer, you can go
anywhere. Find and explore many beautiful
places. You can do your work in nature.
Photography is not about taking pictures of
models but also taking any pictures. Animals,
plants, mountains, oceans and all that available in this world you can take the
pictures. Bring some photography equipment
and you can work in the place that you want
to take the picture. Decide the destination. If
your destination is a serene place, you can
take pictures and work there. Editing pictures, uploading pictures and make Stock Photo. You also can calm your mind there. Because these is a serene place. You can get
some benefits for yourself by choosing right
location independence for you working in
uncommon fields.

If you like to traveling and working in any
location, you need to make Insurance Plan and Health Insurance. This can help you when you are injured when traveling or go
to any location for working.you can go to Insurance Company or call the hotline then ask about the insurance plan. If you agree with the rules, you can start to enroll the
insurance.

The process of identifying careers is so
difficult. How to identify your skills? You
should decide what sort of job you might like
to do and decide what areas you need focus
to your study or training on. We should
choose the career based on our passionate and skills. Skills can improve your career.

Ummmm…. is this can make you interested in
getting your independent location for your
work? Sure some of the people need an
independent location for this. The
independent location can give you more
creativity, calming your mind and you can increase your concentration. This is good for
you and tries to change your independent
location. Keep spirit, keep inspiring, and get
freedom!      

How to have a Strong Marriage

        How to have a Strong Marriage  

“Happily ever after” is a great ending for  Disney but in real life marriage takes work

and commitment. It isn’t just Angelina Jolieand Brad Pitt who argue (the only difference

is that when they argue paparazzi peddle photos to celebrity magazines); every marriage has its ups and downs.

Here are 10 habits every couple should integrate into their home in order to build a strong, happy and enduring marriage.

1.  Stop picking on your partner It’s easier to blame and put responsibility

on your spouse than acknowledge that

marriage is a partnership. Husband and wife

are a team. A healthy marriage means we

support one another-in both words and

actions. This is the definition of commitment. When something goes wrong stop trying to

figure out whose fault it is. It’s a pointless

exercise that just causes pain. Speak about

solutions instead of looking to accuse. Be

careful not to use put downs to feel better

about yourself. There is no room for meanness in marriage.

This goes for the little moments as well as the big ones. Instead of looking to blame

when there’s not enough gas left in the

tank, give empathy. Allow your partner to

unload and show that you care. Talk about

finding a way to work this out for next time instead of defending yourself by attacking

your spouse.

2.   Express feelings in a mature way There’s a difference between whining and

being constructive. Constant complaining feels

as if you are living with a two year old who

falls into tantrums. Talk about what you

want using a positive approach. Instead of

saying “I feel as if I am a single mom; you’re never home,” say “The kids and

I love spending time with you. Is there a way

we can make this happen more often?” A

healthy relationship means we speak about

what we want instead making our partner

feel that home is a place of criticism and nagging.

3.   Stop being passive aggressive Resentment builds when we say we are fine,

and ‘whatever’ but inside we are feeling

spiteful. You may think you are being nice

and giving in but your eyes and body

language speak volumes. If you are upset,

communicate your emotions respectfully instead of bottling up your hard feelings.

Don’t keep saying “Do what you want”

and then freeze on your spouse with an icy

silence. You do not want to become a bitter

partner.

4.   Stop trying to prove that you are right You can be 100% right but your attitude is all

     wrong. If you keep bringing up the same

     thing over and over to prove your point, you

     have lost your way. In a healthy

     relationship, we make a choice to create

     peace instead of trying to always have the final word. Choose tolerance and compassion

     to replace the attitude of arrogance and being

     a ‘know it all’. There are some people

    who need to prove that they’re right even

    when they apologize. When you apologize, be

    sincere. Don’t clarify your apology by saying “I am sorry, BUT…” Being happy is

    better than being right.

5. Be receptive We all make mistakes. When your partner

    wants to make things better, don’t make

    him suffer. If your spouse extends an

     overture after an argument, it is not wise to

    keep the argument going for days. Some

  people find it most difficult to forgive. After an argument they carry hard feelings and

  cannot even give a smile when their spouse

  reaches out and attempts to make things

  right. A thriving relationship requires a spirit

  of acceptance. This means that you are

  approachable and make reconciliation possible. Live your life moving toward each

  other instead of backing away.

6. Stop using threats to manipulate your

   spouse If you value the self-esteem of your partner,

  you will be careful to avoid threats as a way

  to find control. When we intimidate the ones

  we are supposed to love, we lose our

  connection with them. We create an

   environment of fear as rage grows within. True love means that we nourish one

   another as we share a vision for our future.

  We support each other and don’t bulldoze

  our partner to get what we want. We never

  use threats to overcome turmoil. Your

   partner needs to feel cherished not controlled.

7. Set clear limits It is easy to love when all is good. The

   question is how do we make it through a

   disagreement intact? In a health  relationship, 

    couples decide together where

  they will not go. Saying things like “I never

   want to see your face again,’ “I want a divorce,” or using cruel and shaming words

   are simply off limits. (Of course physical

  aggression is also never allowed). Slamming

  the door and walking out, disappearing for

  hours, being flirtatious to get back at your

  spouse, using the children as chess pieces in your battle are all actions that will hurt you

  and never help. Deciding what to do when a

  situation gets ‘hot’ instead of screaming

  and yelling is also crucial. 

   A fight does non mean that the relationship is over. But things

  said and done during the disagreement can be the start of unhealthy pattern that will

  unravel the bond you have together.

8. Be proactive in your love life Instead of complaining, start creating. Stop

   feeling sorry for yourself. Be the one to take

   the initiative. Becoming a parent or being

   married for years does not mean that you

   should neglect your partner. You may need to

   decide to make more time for your spouse, be spontaneous, get creative, and infuse new

  energy into your relationship. Take care of

   yourself and ask: how can I make some

  small changes to help the situation? It may

  mean a haircut, losing the baggy clothing, or

  getting into better shape. Look at your lifestyle and make sure that your spouse

  feels cared for. Express your love every single day.

9. Keep your friendship alive Being married means acknowledging that we

   live with our best friend. Focus on the one

   you love and reach out to your partner, not

   just your friends. A healthy relationship

   creates a life based on mutual trust. We  share intimate details, fears and hopes without being afraid   that we will be laughed at. We make time for each other and share experiences, not just problems,      bills, and carpool schedules.

10. Stop expecting When we give because we expect in return,

   we set ourselves up for disappointment. For

   love to endure, we need to invest in our

   relationship. This means we give and don’t

   measure how much we have gotten back.

   Our question must be: What can I do today to make my marriage better? We are all

  capable of giving. When we express

   appreciation, give a compliment, an

  encouraging hug, a thoughtful gesture, we

  are showing our spouse that we are

   committed and care. Concentrating on what our partner does for us becomes a selfish

  way of giving. Give because you want to

  create a home filled with love.

  Marriage requires thoughtful contemplation. 

Happiness is a choice we make through our

daily decisions and responses. 

When we realize that we have within our power the

ability to build a life together rather than destroy,

 we will renew the spirit of love